How To Consistently Pay Attention To Your LoverJune 29, 2017Dr. Alduan Tartt

As I heard Dr. Tartt share on “How to Consistently Pay Attention to Your Lover” I thought it was inspiring for a future relationship and to share with those who are already in relationships. Having healthy relationships is work but rewarding. Click on the link below. Real Talk

http://www.drtartt.com/single-post/2017/06/29/How-To-Consistently-Pay-Attention-To-Your-Lover

Accepting Forgiveness | Pproverbs 31 Devotions

There may be many like how I was, praying asking God for forgiveness but not accepting the fact that God has done so. I lived in a certain sinful situation for a few years and struggled knowing it was wrong trying to please someone else and my own selfish desires. The longer I stayed in it the harder it was for me to get out of it. When I finally got the strength to get out the situation I thought I would feel free. Free from the bondage I got myself in but I didn’t feel free. Condemnation came upon me reminding me the length of time I stayed in the sinful relationship. I COULD NOT FORGIVE MYSELF!!! I felt like there was no way God could keep forgiving me when I kept praying for strength to get out the situation and kept asking for forgiveness since I was still in it. I started feeling like God had to wait too long for me to get out and be obedient. I finally prayed “God if you have forgiven me please give me a sign or a word”. Then right after praying I went online to search a scripture and came across this website which shared God’s forgiveness. I felt like that was my prayer being answered because I could relate to the testimony and felt a sense of peace. I read the scriptures and vowed I will continue to read until they was totally in my spirit. I praise God and thank Him for never leaving me and giving up on me. He asked me, “Why did I die on the cross? He said, for you.”

The next day I heard on a prayer line let not your heart be troubled neither be afraid. My peace I give to you not from the world. Scrpiture John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid”.

I thank God for loving me this much. He sent me His peace and let me know He’s forgiven me. So, I pray whoever is reading this and you have not forgiven yourself or think God has not, don’t accept the lie that comes from the enemy. The enemy comes to condemn so he can steal, destroy and kill us. You didn’t read this by accident.

REJOICE, WE ARE FREE!!! GOD BLESS!!!

Click on the link below for the story and scriptures.

https://proverbs31.org/devotions/devo/accepting-forgiveness/

Are you in jail/ prison mentally or physically?

As I sit here at the county jail I watch this young man look out the door of a interview room as he patiently awaits for an officer to come by and take him back to his cell. My thoughts were either this guy is patient, has developed patience or is he silently frustrated and refuses to show it in fear of the repercussions. I can’t help but to wonder as I watch him dance to someone else music waiting for every beat telling him which direction to go in. It’s sad to watch someone look out a glass window staring at the freedom they once use to possess. At least physical freedom.

One can be locked up physically but mentally free and physically free but mentally locked up.

I could only imagine pacing around in a small box like cell imagining what is, what could be, what was, and what’s to come. Echoes of the gates slamming, cell doors locking, people yelling, and predators watching. If you are wise you will do your time, learn from your bad decision and leave, to never return to this place called prison.

When you are in jail/prison you are stripped from head to toe. All your belongings are taken away, one-by-one, as you watch what was once yours be taken away and you wonder will you ever get it back. Jail is short term and prison is long term.

A person in jail/prison does not have to look like someone who sits is in a 4×4, cold, poorly lit cell. It can a 5’7″, long hair, beautiful to the eye, flawless women who can’t seem to let shake a no good man who is dogging her out. It can be a 6’1, tall, dark and handsome guy who convinces himself that the women he loves will come home one day and love him the way he feels like he deserves. It can be a person who feels like they know it all and they can’t learn anything new, refusing to think outside of the box. Jail/prison is the bondage you allow yourself to be in whether it’s physically or mentally. A person mentally locked up can be worst than a person who is physically locked up. If you’re lucky and you recognize you are in some form of bondage it may only feel like being in jail for a short period of time if you choose to make changes and move on. If you being in bondage last a long period of time like being in prison it may feel harder to get out of and may even start to feel normal.

Don’t allow yourself not to be free! Free yourself from bondage of people, lust of the flesh, material things, opinion of others, lack of knowledge, ignorance, loving someone else more than yourself, unforgiveness, self pity, greed, impure thoughts, stinking thinking, fornication, adultery, procrastination, idolatry, fear, doubt, jealousy, enviousness, insecurity, rejection and anything else that will hold you back. Don’t find yourself being stripped from head to toe by allowing any of these things to take control of your life. Don’t be a prisoner within yourself due to fear within yourself or of someone else. If it, whatever it (person, place or thing) is, feels like a weight then you may be in bondage to IT.

If you allow anything to hold you back from being free then you are no better off, in some cases, than an inmate who looks out the glass window wishing to get out from behind bars and be free from jail where life awaits him. Let it go, free yourself, let go and let God!!! Real Talk!!!

Love = Time

I wanted to share and something to think about. I’ve been guilty!
Four of the Ten Commandments deal with our relationship to God while the other six deal with our relationships with people. Relationships, not achievements or acquisition of things, are what matters most in life. So why do we allow our relationships to get the short end of the stick? Busyness is a great enemy of relationships. We become preoccupied with making a living, doing our work, paying bills, and accomplishing goals as if these tasks are the point of life. They are not. The point of life is learning to love- God and people. Life minus love equals zero. Love leaves a legacy.

When life is ending, people don’t surround themselves with objects. What we want around us is people- people we love and have relationships with. In our final moments we all realize that relationships are what life is all about. Wisdom is learning that TRUTH SOONER  rather than Later.  

The more time you give something, the more you reveal its importance and value to you. If you want to know a person’s priorities, just look at how they use their time. Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you will never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.

It is not enough just to say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are WORTHLESS.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves. Men, in particular, often don’t understand this. Many have said to me, “I don’t understand my wife and kids. I provide everything they need. What more could they want?” They want you! Your eyes, your ears, your time, your attention, your presence, your focus–your time. Nothing can take the place of that.~ Rick Warren What On Earth Am I Here For

We can’t replace the time we take away from our loved ones, especially our children. They are only children once and for a short period of time…. Real Talk!!!

When A Man Hides A Woman!!!

The statement is: “If he changes the way he treats you when he’s around his friends, he either hasn’t been keeping it real with them or he hasn’t been keeping it real with you.”-Mr. Amari Soul

My question to you: 

1. At what point do you say something when you realize this is happening, right then or later? 

2. How many times should this be allowed? 

3. If you are out on a date and this happens, what should you do, leave or stay? 

People do what we allow them to do. If a person can’t be the same with you in public as they are behind closed doors then you don’t need to be in that relationship. No one should be hidden unless there is something that’s not right in that relationship. A relationship that starts in darkness probably will not go far unless it can allow light to come in, in all areas, and make the necessary corrections.

 God is a God of light, not darkness. Light help things grow. Real Talk!